I've actually never skied Lutzen. I've heard a lot of good stuff about it, but never made the drive. My argument for not going there has always been that if I'm going to drive 12 hours for Lutzen, I might as well drive the extra 3 and get the Vail or Breckenridge. With going to the UP, since bohemia opened, it's worth the extra hour or so to get there compared with the hills around Hurley.
Last year we made it out to Bozeman over Christmas. We actually spent more time at Bridger Bowl than at Big Sky. The place was empty and had a lot of nice steeps too. They both have great terrain, and to be fair the weather played a big part in staying at Bridger. They had between 4 and 12 inches of fresh every night. BigSky wad getting half that or less each night.
I think my favorite hills for the terrain have been Jackson Hole and Alta. Vail has some good stuff too, but there's a lot of people there compared with JH or Alta.
I know what you mean about it being hard to make the trips. Our daughter just turned 3 and son is 4. It makes the ski trips a little tougher. He's been skiing the last 2 years, and this will be her first year on skis. Are you going to be getting Evie on skis this year?